Human Design 101: What is Deconditioning?
Deconditioning is the Human Design term for unlearning and identifying the limiting beliefs and cultural expectations and norms that we subconsciously live by until we begin to dismantle them.
Deconditioning is the process that begins when we choose to live out own unique Human Design — it’s the work that happens once we decide to find out what it means to deep dive into our own authenticity.
Until we wake up to our programming, we’re living out someone else’s ideas and expectations.
We live life on auto-pilot, not on purpose of course, but because we’ve been programmed by our families, our schools, our jobs, and by society at large. (in human design, this is called conditioning)
We don’t realize how often we’re operating on information that was fed to us by someone else. AND OF COURSE, WE DON’T EASILY SEE THIS, BECAUSE WE’RE ALL RUNNING ON SOMEONE ELSE’S PROGRAMMING.
WHO WANTS TO ADMIT THAT THEY ARE PLAYING OUT SOMEONE ELSE’S IDEAS?
IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT OR MY FAULT OR THEIR FAULT. IT’S JUST HOW IT GOES. AND THE GOOD NEWS, WE CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
IT’S A BIT SCARY TO TAKE A PEEK INTO OUR OWN OPERATING SYSTEMS, because gasp what will we find? Edvard munch’s the scream? (likely)
(UN)FORTUNATELY, THERE AREN’T REALLY ANY SHORTCUTS OR QUICK SOLUTIONS. IN FACT, IT’S SOMETHING WE’VE GOT TO DO EVERY DAY FOR-EV-ER.
THE ONLY WAY TO FIX IT IS TO DIVE IN AND SORT OUT THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE DOWNRIGHT UGLY.
(AND GIRL, WE’VE ALL GOT STUFF IN THERE THAT’S A BIT UGLY)
HAVE YOU EVER MADE A DECISION BASED ON A (SUBCONSCIOUS) BELIEF ONLY TO REALIZE THOSE BELIEFS WEREN’T YOURS IN THE FIRST PLACE?
THIS IS CONDITIONING.
CONDITIONING CAN TAKE HOLD OVER YOU IN MANY WAYS
FOR EXAMPLE THINGS LIKE THIS:
- FEELING LIKE YOU’RE ACTING OUT A SCRIPT, ACTING ON SHOULDS, BOWING TO PRESSURE FROM OTHERS
KNOWING WHICH ENERGY CENTERS YOU HAVE OPEN ALLOWS YOU TO SEE WHERE YOU ARE OPEN TO TAKING IN THE CONDITIONING FROM OTHERS.
DECONDITIONING IS AN ON-GOING LIFE PROJECT & WE’RE OUR OWN SUBJECTS IN OUR SELF-STUDY OF LIFE.
WE’RE ALL LITTLE PUZZLES.
EACH DAY WE FIND ANOTHER PIECE. IT CAN BE A JOYOUS PROJECT OR WE CAN BE TOTALLY OVERWHELMED. CHOSE TO SEE YOURSELF AS A SUPER LONGFORM ART PROJECT & GET CURIOUS. WE’RE ALL WEIRD, WE’RE ALL FUCKED UP AND NO ONE KNOWS A FUCKING THING.
HERE’S THE COOL THING: WHEN WE START TO DECONDITION, WE ARE FREEING OUR SPIRITS FROM EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS.
WHAT REALLY GETS US DOWN? MOST OF THE TIME, IT’S OUR PROJECTIONS OF WHAT OUTSIDERS THINK OF US.
WHAT IF WE’ COULD FREE OURSELVES UP? EVEN FOR JUST A LITTLE BIT? WOULDN’T THAT BE PRETTY BOSS? I THINK SO.
THE THING IS, WE’VE GOT A LOT OF ANSWERS IN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS ALREADY, WE’RE JUST TYPICALLY SCARED OUT OF OUR OWN MINDS TO ACT ON THEM BECAUSE WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF WE DO?!
BUT THE MORE YOU CAN LISTEN TO YOUR OWN AUTHORITY THE MORE YOU WON’T GIVE AF ABOUT OTHER’S JUDGEMENT.
WHEN YOU CAN FIND YOUR AUTHENTIC STATE, IT MEANS YOU ARE FREE FROM SOCIETAL PRESSURES AND EXPECTATIONS, ALLOWING YOUR SPIRIT TO FIND ITS OWN INNER GUIDANCE.
LIVING YOUR DESIGN MEANS YOU ARE IN THE MOMENT. PRESENT. NOT FIXATED ON THE PAST. NOT RUNNING A SCRIPT FOR ALL THE WHAT IFS. JUST STRAIGHT UP LIVING.
We’re always inventing the future and the only limits we have are our own.
This work will support you in your self-exploration journey. Remember, we’re all scientists, and understanding our energy is the work we’re here to do.
We’re designed to transcend.
We’re designed to create.
We’re designed to love ourselves.
There is an infinite number of ways that we can express this — we just need to believe it’s possible FOR US.
We’ve all been given a unique purpose and we all have a distinct path.
By developing trust within ourselves, we can stop putting our power in someone else’s hands.
